In my mind, the concept of forgiveness really allows the person basically to say, I’ve done everything that I can to repair this relationship, but there’s no way to do it. This person is just going to be painfully abusive to me, and so I’m going to learn to call it a day. Now, if you call that forgiveness, I would say that’s a reasonable outcome. But to say that everything can be repaired, and everything can be fixed and forgiven, is just not reasonable given the facts.
– Richard Friedman